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Juvenile crime is getting out of control. Isn’t it time to get tough
with young offenders? What can we do cut down
further on youth crime and violence? For those youth who make sure that their first offence is their last. Youth should be held accountable for their behaviour, but trying to punish or scare delinquents into good behaviour has three effects: it makes them angrier, more rebellious and more likely to break the law again. |
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do people make such a big deal about the importance of a child’s first
three years of life? |
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Children who don’t receive the right kinds of developmental supports
and stimulation before they close will have their development in these
areas seriously undermined. Also, children who grow up in families with
high rates of conflict, violence and abuse show characteristic changes
in the “hard-wiring” of their brains. As a result of these
changes, such children are likely to experience higher levels of anxiety,
impulsivity, rage, and predisposition to violence. Why don’t Children’s
Aid Societies realize that children are always better off in their own
families than when they remain in care? Once a child is in the care of a Children’s Aid Society, that Society should give the highest priority to place that child as soon as possible in a family that is committed and capable of permanently meeting the child’s needs at least at an adequate level. Wherever possible, this will involve returning the child to a biological family whose capacity for parenting has been improved sufficiently. Some families, however, are incapable of change and remain unable to meet their children’s most basic needs. To return children to such a family - one that remains rejecting, neglectful and/or abusive - runs the risk of initiating the always damaging process of bouncing children in and out of care repeatedly. Such children are likely to end up in limbo, that is, alienated from - and suspicious of - any family, however devoted, that is trying to meet their needs. To learn more about ways that children get trapped in limbo, about how
being in limbo affects their development and behaviour, and to see what
can be done to minimize unnecessary damage from being in limbo, send for
Who needs junior kindergarten? So, eliminating junior kindergarten is a false economy. Whatever the
short term savings, we will probably end up paying more in the long run
as we are forced to deal with the learning and behaviour problems of children
whom we helped set up to begin school unprepared to learn. Are poverty and disadvantage
the same thing? Thus good parenting is a stronger influence on successful development
than poverty is. But parents in poor families have many more stresses
(financial insecurity; finding and keeping affordable housing; multiple
moves; etc.) and many fewer diversions and escapes available to them than
wealthier families. As a result, poor parents are more likely to feel
chronically stressed, that they have little control over and hope for
the future, and to experience higher rates of family conflict, instability,
violence, and psychiatric disorders - than more affluent families. It
is these psychological and social stresses, especially when combined -
more than the poverty that contributes to them - that are most strongly
associated with the higher level of disturbances found in children growing
up in poverty. Are there certain basic
universal needs that are common to all children? For example, the window of development for vocabulary development closes
by about three years of age. That means that unless, during those first
three years, an infant receives lots of stimulation - such as being surrounded
by a family who respond when she gurgles or babbles, who talk to her,
sing to her, read to her, teach her to find words for things (like colours,
animals, foods, body parts, etc.), that infant is unlikely to ever achieve
the same level of vocabulary she would have had she been richly stimulated
during the critical period for language and vocabulary development. That
will affect not only her vocabulary, but also her ability to understand
language and to use it - for talking, reading, understanding, problem-solving,
all important skills that are based on language - which are unlikely to
develop to the same extent once the window of opportunity is closed. Similarly, a baby’s window of opportunity for attachment - for developing absolute trust in his caregivers’ ability to accurately sense and reliably meet his needs - closes even earlier, about two years of age. For this reason, children whose caregivers consistently let them down are unlikely to develop the capacity for optimism and the belief in the trustworthiness of others that serves as the model for relating to others, not just in the family but in society. Lacking a source of basic trust, they are also deprived of the reassurance and confidence that they will need to deal with strangers and unfamiliar situations successfully, which will make it harder for them to move towards successful independence. True, if they are lucky enough to experience superb caregiving for long enough later in life - an opportunity which few unattached children receive or can take advantage of - they may be able over time to laboriously achieve a sense of trust and to generalize that into a capacity for successful relationships with others. But, in the meantime, the capacity for trust and for forming close relationships with other children and adults will have been lost. So will the learning that most children receive from such relationships. For an example of how too much of the wrong kind of environmental stimulation
can affect brain development, consider the sitution of the infant growing
up in a family where conflict, violence and abuse are a fact of everyday
life. Such a child, who can experience at any point an exposure to renewed
violence, exists in a state of chronic arousal. Chronic arousal has the
effect on the brain of causing overdevelopment in areas responsible for
impulsivity, anxiety, rage, and for the predisposition for violence. If,
in addition to the exposure to repeated violence, the child receives less
than optimal exposure to stimulation - that is, if his early years are
featured by chronic neglect as well as by repeated abuse. |
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